How to Determine Your Kink

According to recent studies, almost every person on the planet has some kind of kink that they’re either interested in trying or desperate to keep doing. Having a special kind of sexual interaction that you like the most does not make you a freak, at least not anymore. In fact, there are now entire communities of perverted people who band together under common interests, and many of those interests are not exactly mainstream.

For a lot of people, discovering a kink isn’t such an easy thing. Not only do we have to navigate our way through various social taboos and personal hang-ups, but we must also educate ourselves on what’s out there. Not knowing your options is the quickest way to develop a distaste for the tastefully kinky. Fortunately, there are a few surefire ways to figure out your fetish before it becomes a thing of the past.

What Is a Kink or Fetish?

The most trusted dictionaries in the world define a “fetish” as an activity or object which delivers sexual gratification to the participant and is often linked to an abnormal degree of lust, attraction or appreciation to a specific item such as an article of clothing, a part of the body or an erotic action. In other words, it’s a finely tuned fixation or compulsion that drives a person’s libido.

A fetish can be many different things, from feet and shoes to smoking and fisting. Those still apprehensive about fetishes obviously don’t realize their long history within the annuls of mankind. Although seen as offensive or off-limits by many people throughout the world, healthy fetishes have the ability to supercharge a person’s sex drive while increasing their confidence and skillset in the bedroom. Discovering kinks and fetishes is therefore an exercise in wholeness.

What Are Some of the Most Popular Kinks?

The modern-day world is a wild and crazy place, which means more and more people are becoming comfortable with their inner voices and carnal desires. Back in the day, kinky individuals had to lie, cheat and steal just to get their rocks off. These days, however, the following fetishes are considered relatively vanilla:

  • Abduction Play
  • Anal Training
  • Ass Worship
  • Ball Stretching
  • Bare Bottom Spanking
  • BDSM (Bondage, Dominance, Sadism and Masochism)
  • Belly Dancing
  • Big Tits
  • Bimbofication
  • Biting
  • Boot Licking
  • Bukkake
  • Caging and Confinement
  • Chastity
  • Choking
  • Corporal Punishment
  • Costumes
  • Cunnilingus
  • Daddy/Daughter Role Play
  • Degradation
  • Domestic Servitude
  • Domination
  • Exhibitionism
  • Fetish Wear
  • Fire Play
  • Flogging
  • Foot Worship
  • Gender Play
  • Group Sex
  • Hentai
  • Humiliation
  • Impact Play
  • Lactation
  • Latex
  • Master/Mistress and Slave
  • Mutual Masturbation
  • Orgasm Denial
  • Panty Sniffing
  • Polyamory
  • Porn
  • Rituals
  • Ropes
  • Sensory Deprivation
  • Sex Toys
  • Squirting
  • Teasing
  • Voyeurism
  • Wax
  • Webcams
  • Whips

This is by no means an exhaustive list. Keep in mind that there are literally hundreds of other fetishes and kinks to choose from, plus there’s no rule that says you can’t come up with a few of your own. One of the most popular things for people to do is mix and match kinks to find the one that’s ideal for their unique personality. Picking the right fetish is only a matter of examining your personality and the personalities of the partner(s) you’re having sex and/or masturbating with.

Tips for Determining Your Favorite Fetish

People are unique creatures with a wide variety of compulsions and you’re no exception. To determine which kinks are mostly likely enjoyable to you and/or your partner(s), be sure to go through the following checklist:

  • Think About Your Body Type

Body concerns are a big deal when it comes to figuring out and experimenting with various kinks and fetishes. Those who have mobility limitations are often excluded from certain kinks, although the sex toy industry is doing a good job of keeping up with the increasing demand for more user-friendly pleasure products. Think about the bodies involved in each sexual scene you create so that everyone can enjoy the maximum amount of satisfaction.

  • Consider Your Lifestyle

Some kinks and fetishes aren’t ideal for all lifestyles. For example, 24/7 BDSM habits don’t always mesh with what you have going on around the house and loud or dangerous game play isn’t always appropriate when there are other people sharing your space. So, while your lifestyle may help shape the things you’re introduced to, it is not by any means a limitation on what you can experience. In fact, there are groups you can join to learn more about the things that interest you the most.

  • Keep Track of Your Budget

Developing a kink and/or discovering a fetish can get to be very expensive if you’re not careful. Certain options require special skills and equipment for maximum enjoyment, meaning you’ll likely have to invest in things like sex toys, body restraints, personal lubricant, device cleaning supplies and storage containers for all your stuff. Irresponsible ownership and a lack of due diligence can leave you wishing you’d followed this advice more closely.

Getting the Proper Supplies

Procuring the proper supplies for your newfound kink isn’t as difficult as it might seem. Today’s industry for pleasure products is beyond massive, with a little something available for every taste, experience level and fetish. Modern-day manufacturers have taken special care to develop intriguing devices and accessories that are easy to use even for someone who’s relatively unfamiliar with these things. Unfortunately, that massive selection can make it hard for some people to find what they’re truly looking for.

To find the right equipment for your latest and greatest craze, be sure to always shop through a reputable dealer that has a direct affiliation with the product’s manufacturer. Never opt for knockoffs just to save a few bucks. You’ll find numerous imitations of the best items, but there can only be one at the top of the list. Narrow your search a little bit more by quickly reading over some candid customer reviews and by studying a few buyer’s guides on the products you’re interested in the most. Usually, you’ll be directed towards your ideal stash pretty swiftly that way.